Good morning from Orange County friends! I got in late last night after my plane sat delayed on the tarmac for an hour. JFK ya kill me. Luckily I'm reading a delicious book called "A Discovery Of Witches," by Deborah Harkness. It's incredibly written full of history and bright imagery. I killed a couple hundred pages before looking out the window to see Vegas below, a bright landmark announcing the final leg of the flight.
Coming home was overwhelmingly different. I'm not sure if it's because my best friend is getting married to one of the most incredible men I've ever met or if it was because I am here alone. My ex was supposed to come with me and meet my family and friends.
I met my best friend and bride to be Raven almost a decade ago. We became quick friends and were each other's pillars through the crazy transition of tween, to teen and reluctantly to adult. She met Tom soon after we became friends. I've watched their relationship make the same transitions as our friendship and then bloom into a partnership. (Well, Tom's a dash older and started in teen.) Tom is an incredible partner to Raven. He's passionate, hilarious, vivacious, generous, driven, humble and caring and he's spent close to a decade listening to Raven and I sing in the car. He happily shared Raven with me from day one and welcomed me with open arms into their family. This house they have built together feels oddly like home to me.
Love is magic. I look at Raven now magnetic, radiant and confident and marvel at her power to stay connected to herself and to her partner. We were talking on our way home from the airport about vulnerability and leaning into the unknown. It made me think of one of my favorite sayings, "whatever will happen already has."
I love to be in control. It's something I do to keep from getting hurt. But you can't live and love without surrendering yourself to vulnerability. The best relationships are those that you can't control or predict. I have a difficult time surrendering and loving with my whole heart without a guarantee. I think I may have set an impossible standard for my ex and then cut ties instead of being patient like I said I would. Love is a hard thing to let got of. They call it falling in love after all, not slowly, cautiously, trying out love.
Sophocles said "One word frees us of all the weight of the pain of life. That word is love." The best kinds of relationships are those where you talk like best friends, play like children, agrugue like husband and wife and protect each other like brother and sister. Raven and Tom are demonstrating how important it is to love with your whole heart with the lack of guarantee. (Something easier said than done.)
I'm humbled by their bravery, their commitment and their fierce love for one another. I love them to pieces. I can't believe the wedding is finally here.
This was a long one. I'm gonna go wake Raven up for breakfast and then head out for a run. We have a big day of wedding preparations ahead of us! Until tomorrow friends, #RunSelfieRepeat