7 Fears That Stop You From Trying

Fear is a son of a bitch. I don't know about you guys, but I'm always second guessing myself or saying I got "lucky" instead of taking ownership of my achievements because it's the polite thing to do. Want to hear something crazy? I still don't consider myself an athletic person. I wasn't athletic growing up and finding a positive and healthy relationship with Physical Activity was a huge struggle for me in my adult life. I don't run because I love being active, I run because I need the constant reminder that the only thing standing in my way are my fears and doubts. Here are 10 fear's that will stop you from trying:

1. The Fear of Failure.

Failure can take so many different shapes and forms. It could be a finish line or it could be a goal weight. But what happens when you set out to fail? Why not just try, learn, fail and keep going? Failure happens every single day, so if you change your relationship with fear, you'll learn that it's nothing more than a thought.

2. The Fear of Expectations.

Welcome to the land of meddlers and unwarranted opinions. Trying something new? You'll find that everyone has an opinion even if they don't know what they're talking about. Here's the best way to deal with unwarranted opinions? Smile and wave. You listen because sometimes you'll get a nugget of wisdom but say, "Stay tuned. But hey! Thanks for your support."

3. The Fear of the Unknown.

Want to know the scariest part about running a marathon was for me? Not knowing how to run a marathon. I think I read every single "My first marathon" story on the internet so I could have some sort of handle on what I was walking into. But friends no two stories are alike. It's very wise to fill your knowledge bucket because knowledge is power! But don't pigeon hole yourself because your experience may differ from someone Else's. Stay present, stay focused and most importantly, stay curious.

4. The Fear of Judgement.

That's you my trolly friends. That's all the beautiful souls who like to park their attention in your front yard to, "Watch the train wreck." There's always going to be someone who doesn't believe in you, hell there may not be anyone who believes in you! The only person you need on your side is YOU. You can do absolutely anything you put your mind to. Those limits are self imposed The best way to put those troll monsters in their place is to to have the time of your life. Have fun. Even if you fail, if you're having fun what does it matter? Fail better.

5. The Fear of Success.

Fear of Success

This one could not be scarier, what happens when you succeed? Where does the bar raise to once you accomplish whatever you set out to do!? Success is intimidating and I will be the first to say that a fear of success runs my life. Not a day goes by where I don't find myself thinking, "What happens if I'm not the person they think I am?" CURVE BALL: You do deserve to be here and yes you are capable of happiness and success because YOU WORKED FOR IT. WHO KNEW?

6. The Fear of Saying Yes to You.

Sometimes when you say yes to you, you have to say no to others. This ventures into the land of the unfamiliar and the un-known because as you grow and transform, the people around you may not like the change. They want the person they know, not this strong, confident go getter who is working to be happy. You don't even have to worry about weeding out negativity, they'll weed themselves out. But brace yourself, they'll go down swinging. Just keep smiling and doing you, it'll all be over before you know it. Don't be afraid to say yes to you. You have to learn to love yourself before anyone else can love you.

7. The Fear of Responsibility.

Want to know what happens when you try? You become a pole bearer for success, a role model for happiness. That's a big responsibility. This where the, "I'm a fraud. I don't deserve to be here" thoughts live. Don't listen to them, they are bullshit. You didn't luck your way to success, you worked for it. Own it. Embrace it. Believe in yourself. Grab confidence's hand and let it lead you to the promise land.

Good things don't happen to good people. Good things happen to people who go out and work for them. Yes it will be easier for others who don't work even an ounce as hard as you do. Don't worry about them, put your head down and work even harder. Stop worrying about what's going on around you and just focus on what you're doing. Don't compare yourself to others and don't let road blocks get in your way. Roll with the punches because you're stronger than you think. But most importantly, don't ever let fear stop you from trying because even if you fail, it's better to take a step back, learn and then take 5 steps forward than it is to stay in one place. Get out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. Let fear be an indicator that you're moving the right way. Until tomorrow, #RunSelfieRepeat.

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Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.