The Difference Between Doing Your Best and Trying Your Hardest

Have you ever had a fortune cookie slap some perspective into you? I have! (I always knew cookies were good for me.) Yesterday my friends and I went down to Chinatown to watch the Chinese New Year Parade. Chinatown is like the happiest war zone on earth during the parade because hundreds of people set off huge, loud, wonderful confetti cannons (2 for $5-arguably the best deal in NYC). Every 5 seconds you hear a thundering boom and then see a rainfall of confetti.

After we worked up an appetite celebrating and shooting confetti cannons, we went out to dinner and then this happened.

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Truer words have never been spoken by a cookie. A goal I set for myself this year was to get faster by running a 1:45 half marathon and break 4 hours in the marathon. Both times are fairly lofty goals for me but definitely possible with some hard work and dedication. I made a plan of attack in January and I started doing speed work twice a week. Almost all of my running has been done on a treadmill and recently I’ve been miserable. I rarely look forward to my post work runs (though I always feel wonderful after it’s over) and I spend every minute watching the clock tick down.

Then on Saturday I got to run with my new best friend Gregg of NYC Sweat in Central Park and he, coupled with my inspirational cookie, put everything back into perspective. We ran 11 effortless miles and laughed the entire way. Both Gregg and my cookie helped me take that necessary step away from my goal and back into the land of the now. I realized that there’s a difference between doing your best and trying your hardest. Giving your best isn’t only about how fast, how hard, or how far you go but also how happy you are doing it. When it comes to fitness goals, if you aren’t having fun or if you’re not enjoying yourself then what’s the point?

All the fun is being had in this picture.

One of the easiest mistakes you can make when working towards a fitness goal is feeling ashamed, discouraged or defeated by where you're at instead of empowered by it. We all have to start somewhere! It doesn’t matter how fast you’re doing it, how long it’s taking, or how far you’re going, it’s the fact that you’re showing up and putting the work in that counts. And sometimes you have to stop to smell the flowers, to take a break and remind yourself why made the goal in the first place.

I may have been trying my hardest when it came to my speed work but there’s a difference between giving something your best and trying your hardest. Your best is all encompassing; it’s both physical and mental. You have to find that balance between both pain and pleasure. You have to remember why you set the goal in the first place. Maybe you are training for your first 5K, half marathon, or marathon or maybe you want to get faster. Results take time and you won’t stick with it unless you are enjoying the journey. Take a minute to celebrate how far you’ve come. Like the cookie said, the best effort you give now puts in the best place for whatever is coming next. Until next time, #RunSelfieRepeat.

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Kelly Roberts

My name is Kelly Roberts and I am a 25 year old New York City resident. My story made headlines when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the NYC Half Marathon. My blog, www.RunSelfieRepeat.com is bursting with humor and personal stories that lend an insight into the world of running and lead you to believe that just about anyone, regardless of their fitness level, can and should fall in love with running. Though currently an avid runner, I never would have predicted I would run marathons. I was the kid who used to hide in the bushes or play dead to get out of running the mile in school. I HATED running. But running has given me a purpose. It’s shown me that I really am limitless. In the two years since I started running, I’ve run multiple half marathons, 10ks, and 5ks, and two full marathons. My mission is to inspire others to find the courage to say yes to themselves all the while making them laugh hysterically because laughing is the solution to everything.