How to Make a Change

There comes a moment when you realize that what was once working for you, isn't working anymore. Maybe you feel stuck. Or lost. It can be a huge realization, like deciding that you want to get your health back or it can be small, like deciding to see more of the world. Either way, making a change is never easy.

One of the most common emails I receive is from people struggling to find the motivation to either get started or to keep going. I wish I had the answers or some way to show how empowering it is to push through the doubts or hard days. I know what it feels like to give up. I understand how intimidating a huge change can feel. I never thought I would be able to lose the 75+ pounds I gained after my brother passed away. It felt impossible. I didn't believe that I would be able to do it. But I did. 

The key to making any change a reality is believing in yourself and focusing on what you can do today. 

Before you make a change, ask yourself these two questions.

1. How badly do you want it?

2. Do you believe in yourself. 

No? Well fake it until you do because doubt is one hell of a mother f*cker. It will drag you down and make you believe that whatever it is you're working towards isn't doable, worthwhile, or possible. But that's the nature of doubt, it's everything you fear about the unknown. What will happen if you don't hit your goal? Or if you quit on yourself? What will happen if you give everything you have and still fall short? Will you be able to live with yourself? What will people say? Will the shame be unbearable?

Is it worth it?

Yes. Of course it is.

It's impossible to feel disappointed in yourself when you give everything you have in pursuit of a goal. It doesn't matter if you "fail" to accomplish whatever it is you wish to accomplish because you'll find inner strength and confidence along the way. The end result is never an end game, it's just a benchmark to work towards. Growth happens in the journey and it's never too late to get started, re-start, or to make a change. Finishing without regrets and without excuses is a win in and of itself. 

But you have to take the first step. It's going to feel impossible. It's going to be really difficult. The doubts will be there and the only way you can fight through them is if you believe in yourself. You have to trust that every sacrifice, every doubt, set back, and every step you take will be worth it. No change is impossible if you're willing to work for it. 

Take a second to ask yourself if you're doing everything you can to make your goal a reality. If not, make a change. Focus on where you're at now and take some time to build yourself up along the way. We're quick to do the tangible work and we ignore how we feel about ourselves. Unless you take the time to build your self confidence, you'll never find it. Don't worry about the end result or the finish line. You'll get there in time. 

F*ck new year, new you. Come as you are. Remove any shame you feel about where you're at today. Embrace it. Love it. You're already the best you possible because you're the only you possible. Remember, strength doesn't look a certain way, it feels a certain way. And that feeling will change your life.  

Just take the first step. Then keep going.

Until next time, #RunSelfieRepeat.

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Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.