Please Don't Call A Woman Who Has Been Disrespected And Body Shamed A Liar

Dear stranger who popped up in my news feed,

You don't know me and I don't know you. In fact, I have no clue how the hell your word vomit of a status update ended up in my news feed but it did and here we are. Can we take a second to talk about this?

This Guy Is An Ass Hole

WONDERFUL. So for reference, here's the article that this wonderful man felt compelled to add his two cents to.

A couple of things,

FIRST OF ALL, when a woman talks about being disrespected and body shamed by anyone, male or female, your initial response should never be, "Where is the proof?". Women have a pretty long history of men telling them what they should and shouldn't be doing with their lives and bodies so history kind of rules in her favor. (And there's a reason her response went viral. Other women experienced a similar encounter and felt compelled to share their own stories.)  But the point is, this woman was degraded and disrespected. That's all that matters. Period. End of story. Next time, try starting from a place of compassion. 

Second, just because some people are jackwads, that does not make their behavior acceptable. We all have a responsibility to treat each other with respect, jackwad or not. It's important that we draw a big fat circle around deplorable behavior and remind the world that acting like an asshole isn't OK! It comes down to power, when someone makes you feel small, it's important that you let your voice be heard. Which brings me to...

Have you ever been caught off guard? It's hard to do the right thing when a complete stranger is telling you that your boobs are saggy in front of your small child. So yes, she made lemonade out of lemons by sharing her disgusting encounter, her frustration and disappointment, and subsequently empowering others. The fact that you don't see that is incredibly disconcerting.

And finally, on behalf of all of your social media friends and strangers like me who have to be subjected to your status updates, please think before you write. Words have power. It's not about, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." It's about, "If you don't have anything constructive,  enlightening, or entertaining to say, don't say anything at all". This status update was none of the above and I'm incredibly disappointment in you.

On behalf of all humans, please be better. And on behalf of women, get it the fuck together.


Kelly Roberts


Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.