The Key To Believing In Yourself

There are moments in our lives that feel totally and completely unattainable. One of the hardest moments I've ever faced was admitting that I wanted to lose weight. It felt like defeat because losing over 75 pounds felt impossible.  I'd spent my entire life trying to lose 20 ish pounds and failed, how was I supposed to lose three times that much? 

I spent my entire adolescence and early young adult life struggling with body image. I thought I was fat. I'd tried every crash diet, pill, and dangerous fad in an attempt to attain a bikini body and I was anything but confident when I was at my healthiest so imagine how hopeless I felt when I was reached my heaviest. I hated going to the gym. I didn't want to starve myself. I didn't understand what healthy felt or looked like. And I was insecure about being seen trying to workout.

It's hard to explain just how intimidating losing that huge amount of weight was. Even today, it's hard to believe that I was able to make it happen. And yet, it was so simple. I ate really well, and I worked out. That being said, it's really f*cking hard. The amount of patience required is unparalleled. Losing weight is a lot like running marathon. It sounds impossible but step by step, day by day, if you trust and believe in yourself, you make it happen. 

NOT before and after pictures. Me in two different times of my life. Neither is more beautiful, one version is just a lot stronger and happier. I did what I could to survive. 

NOT before and after pictures. Me in two different times of my life. Neither is more beautiful, one version is just a lot stronger and happier. I did what I could to survive. 

Change doesn't happen overnight. You have to celebrate every single teeny tiny win because it's the only way to stay present. Life is too hard not to enjoy the journey, however difficult or harrowing it may be. 

There's a reason I say the only way you'll fail is if you fail to try and that's because I'm a quitter. Personally, I hate the saying "quitting isn't an option" because I've quit on myself more times than I can count. And it was never easy. Quitting isn't the lazy option, I think it's a hell of a lot harder than pushing through whatever doubt, fear, or discomfort you're experiencing. But in the moment, you forget. It's hard to remember that pain is temporary when you don't believe that you can keep going. Especially when you're doing it for the first time.

But dare to surprise yourself. As long as you give 100% and push yourself a tiny bit farther than you think you can go, then that isn't quitting. That's a tiny win. You have to believe in yourself. Understand that whatever you've told yourself you can and can't do is BS. Those pre-defined limits aren't doing you justice. Your limits are meant to be pushed. 

Don't play by rules that don't work for you. Design your own game and make your own rules.

Compare yourself to no one but who you were yesterday.

There's no such thing as a right time to get started, there's only today. Treat every single day like today is the day.

Don't let doubt stop you from doing hard things.

Just say yes, and then see what happens.

I believe in you.

Now you have to.

Me doubting whether or not I was going to finish the New York City Marathon. Luckily, I have the greatest coach in the whole entire world Josh Maio who told me to just look at it like a victory lap, to take my time, and to have fun. He is a good human.

Me doubting whether or not I was going to finish the New York City Marathon. Luckily, I have the greatest coach in the whole entire world Josh Maio who told me to just look at it like a victory lap, to take my time, and to have fun. He is a good human.

Until next time, #RunSelfieRepeat.

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Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.