Today on the Run, Selfie, Repeat podcast, Dr. Bob is giving us the tools we need to succeed when I don’t think I can do this invades our brains. From pre-race nerves, to trusting the plan, feeling overwhelmed, manifesting courage, keeping a steady emotional state, to Dr. Bob's advice for talking yourself off of running cliffs, this episode will help you shake the doubts so that you can kick ass and take names.
How badly do you want it? That is a question that took the wind out of my sails during my last huge attempt to make impossible, possible. Because I wasn't mentally ready to take the gloves off and fight with every piece of hope I had, I thought that because I was struggling, I didn't want it badly enough. Today, I know better. I know that how badly do you want it isn't a question to save for you big day, it comes down to right now. How can you fight through doubts and set backs every single day. With just days left until my second attempt to try to qualify for the Boston Marathon, a goal that's felt impossible for an entire year, I have a new outlook on how badly do you want it.
Here’s the thing about the body positivity movement, learning to love the skin you’re in and where you’re at today is Step 1. Because if you can’t look in the mirror and see how beautiful you really are today, you'll never be happy. Building a positive body image takes time.
But here’s Step 2, you can’t just tell yourself you love where you’re at, you have to love yourself enough to fight for a healthier and stronger tomorrow. That means making a conscious effort to fuel your body with the proper portion sizes of healthy foods. Or finding ways to get active that don't feel like torture.
Running will teach you to live your life unapologetically because you have absolutely nothing to prove to anyone but yourself. Whether you're running for alone time or a way to redefine what you're capable of, there's no better way to feed your soul than setting an impossible goal and working towards the starting line one step at a time. Let's talk about what it means to run apologetically.
After working tirelessly towards a goal, it can be devastating when the unexpected happens. Maybe it's an injury, or you get sick, or maybe your car won't start before a big interview. If there's one thing we can all count on it's that we have to expect the unexpected. But even when we know that set backs, speed bumps, and detours are inevitable, they are always difficult to manage. Sports Psychology wizard Dr. Bob joins us to talk about what it means to do your best when you're struggling to think your best is good enough.
Do you ever feel pressure to act a certain way to live up to other people's expectations? Because I do. In today's episode, I talk about how we perceive ourselves, how we perceive our online presence, and my good friend Chris Heuisler joins us to talk about he thought I was going to be a narcissist before he met me. Like the old saying goes, don't judge a book by it's cover...right?
**And also, thank you Chris for answering my phone call at the drop of a hat and sharing my favorite story. You are a gem Chris Heuisler.**
Sometimes when everything we're working towards feels so huge and overwhelming, it's hard not to want to take a step back and wait for the right time to try again. Or if you're struggling to find your purpose or path, it's hard not to feel like you're just floating through space. Regardless of what you're going through, if you feel like you're waiting for your life to get started, today's episode is for you.
It isn't easy to take a risk or put yourself out there. Maybe it's asking for a promotion, applying for a new job or raise, asking someone out, telling someone that you love them, making a healthy lifestyle change, or going for a BQ, if there's one thin you can count on it's to expect the unexpected. But sometimes the hardest part isn't the risk itself, it's the pressure that comes with it. Do you feel like you're drowning under the pressure? Me too. Let's talk about it.
I've been going through the journal I kept after my younger brother Scott passed away. Towards the end of that first year, I started writing about whether or not I'd ever be able to find happiness again. Because up until that point, I had struggled to understand both how I felt and how I thought other people wanted me to act. And eventually, I realized that it was up to me to give myself permission to feel happy again.
Permission. It’s a tough one because I think we all fall into this trap of expectations. From breakups, divorces, getting fired or let go, to even falling short of a goal, sometimes we act the way we think we're supposed to act or feel the things we think we're supposed to feel instead of just letting ourselves cope.
So, let's talk about what it means to give yourself permission to not just survive, but thrive.
It all started when I realized that my weight on my State ID card is 140 pounds. Now I'm not even close to 140 pounds on the best day but I was instantly transported back to the 16 year old version of myself. And it made me think about how insecure I used to be about my weight. I still am today, but it's different. Today I know my own strength and while I sometimes fumble, I mostly strut. So let's talk about what we're insecure about and how not to let our insecurities ruin our lives!
If you haven't heard of the force of nature that is Sally Bergesen before today, allow me to give you some backstory. 10 years ago, Sally founded Oiselle (pronounced wa-zell), a female apparel line designed by women, for women. Over the past 10 years, Sally has been a voice for both Women's rights as well as Athlete's rights and is a true badass and crusader who is changing the sport of running.
In February 2016, Sally spoke at the Muse Conference about fashion, feminism, and the new powersuit.
Put your big girl powersuit on (you too dudes) because in this episode of the RSR podcast, the founder and CEO of Oiselle, Sally Bergesen joins us for a discussion on what exactly it means to embrace the new powersuit.
When we feel beautiful, we look beautiful. If we know that, why do we struggle so much with our body image? Or why do we struggle to know that we're beautiful? SERIOUSLY? Why? Well, I'm back in NYC and I'm looking for love. And beauty is something I've been spending a lot of time thinking about. (Mostly because I don't like to change out of my Oiselle aero running tights...) But let's talk about beauty!
I'm going to pose this question again. Let me know what you think in the comments below.
What do you think makes someone beautiful? Or what do you think makes you look and feel beautiful?
Dr. Bob AKA the Sports Psychology wizard is back! Today's episode is a big one! From talking about insurance policies and holding ourselves back to his take on redefining our limits (see episode 27), he is taking your questions and changing lives!
And if you struggled to feel like a runner, let me know in the comments below. Are you still struggling? What do you do to change the way you see yourself? Or was there a moment when you assumed your new identity as a badass runner?
You know those days when you're so mad and frustrated that you can't get anything done, or sleep, and you just want to shoot laser beams out of your eyeballs? That's how my day went down yesterday. Let's talk about how I get through bad days.
The more we define what we can and can't do, the worse off we are. One of the hardest parts about climbing self doubt mountain is redefining my pre-defined limits. It drives me crazy that before I even try, I can convince myself that I'm going to fail or fall short. One of my favorite parts about running is that it's a constant reminder that it's not about how badly you want something, it's about how hard you're willing to work for it. And you have to believe that you're stronger than you think. Let's talk about how running is helping me redefine my pre-defined limits.
Let me know what your pre-defined limits are and how you work to redefine them in the comments below.
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CAN WE TAKE A SECOND TO TALK ABOUT THE LITTLE VOICE IN THE BACK OF OUR HEADS THAT TELLS US WE AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH, SMART ENOUGH, QUALIFIED ENOUGH, OR PRETTY ENOUGH??? Woah, sorry about the caps. That was aggressive. BUT (sorry, there they are again), I want to talk about the fact that the only thing stopping us from making impossible possible.
Struggling with a big decision? Feeling a little intimidated and doubtful? Today I want to talk about a few of the things I do to transform myself into a brave badass warrior women when I'm struggling to believe in myself.
I think for so many people, running is so much more than a way to chase goals or stay in shape. We're literally running for our lives. But what happens when you start stepping out side of your comfort zone and start chasing an impossible goal? It's possible that the activity that felt like your lifeline may start to feel more like a chore and a job. Can you run for your life and still push your limits? I think it's a balance. Sometimes it's hard to find that balance but change doesn't happen overnight. Dare to fail. Dare to try something new. Don't just run, run for your life.
There's a lyric in Hamilton, An American Musical that helped me find my voice, "Who lives, who dies, who tells your story." I was watching the Hamilton documentary on KPBS and listening to Lin Manuel Miranda talk about purpose and the importance of preserving our stories changed the way I approached my blog, Run, Selfie, Repeat. Up until that point, I was sharing bits and pieces of my story but I stuck mostly with funny articles.
All we have is our story. And for me, one of the hardest parts about my grief or even my struggle to lose weight was that I felt alone. So today, let's talk about our stories and why I think it's important that they're shared and preserved.
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One of the hardest parts about adopting a healthy lifestyle or becoming a runner is that it can easily feel overwhelming or impossible. Pushing your limits and stepping outside of your comfort zone is hard! Results don’t happen overnight. It’s a slow progression and in the beginning, it's hard to trust that the painful work you’re putting in will eventually pay off. Let's talk about how the power of patience can help you kick ass and take names.