Ep 44: It's OK To Feel Disappointed In Yourself

Anyone who has ever chased a goal that felt intimidating and unattainable, put in the work, and then either stood in their own way or "failed" trying knows how disappointing it can be to fall short.

After reading through a few billion emails from readers and listeners urging me not to feel disappointed in how I handled the London Marathon, we need to talk about the fact that it’s ok to feel disappointed in yourself. What's not ok is to take disappointment and turn it into a sign that you should give up. 

Nobodies perfect. We all make mistakes. What I experienced during the London Marathon isn't something I'm particularly proud of but when I was out there on the course, struggling to find a way not to give up, I remembered what Sophie Walker had said during the Women Run Strong event. Sophie told a story about how one particularly rough day, she realized that no one was going to save her.

She had to save herself. 

Sometimes the cards are stacked against us. Regardless of what happens, there's no such thing as game over. When you stumble, you have to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you're feeling. Feel disappointed. Or sad. But remember, set backs don't define you. They're just apart of the journey.  The only way you'll fail is if you fail to try. No regrets, no excuses.

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Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.