Ep 84: Bouncing Back From Failure

Sometimes, even when you have every single tool in your toolbox, and you still fail or fall short making whatever you set out to do a reality, it’s hard not to question yourself. Why you’re working towards making your impossible goal, possible. You can't help but ask yourself if you’re good enough. If you’re cut out for it. If it’s worth it. Or if the disappointment and hurt are worth trying again.

And the answer doesn’t always have to be a resounding, "Yes!". Here’s the value in having the courage to crash and burn after giving 100%: Eventually, you'll crawl out of the hell hole you find yourself in with a completely different outlook. You know how hard you can work. You know what it felt like to doubt yourself and prove yourself wrong. You see the power of hard work and persistence. And most importantly, you learn firsthand that anything worth doing isn't just going to be hard, but takes a hell of a lot of time, patience, and persistence.  

Bouncing back from failure isn’t something you can do overnight. I don’t care how many Pinterest quotes you put onto your vision board, you can’t fight through the fog or pull yourself out of the shame cave until you’re ready. You can’t force yourself to move past it. When you’re ready to take the next step, you’ll know. And you’ll be able to see what you can do differently a hell of a lot more clearly.

The only way you'll fail is if you fail to try. I truly believe that. Not every day is going to be the one you worked for. But as long as you keep putting one foot in front of the other, anything is possible.

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Kelly Roberts

It all started when a silly joke made headlines back in 2014 when I took selfies with hot guys “hottie hunting” my way through the New York City Half Marathon. But ironically enough, I haven't always been a runner. As the self-proclaimed former President of the "I f*cking hate running club", I spent most of my life finding ways to avoid physical activity. Growing up, I missed over 70 days of PE my senior year. Working out was something I thought I had to suffer through in order to lose weight. 

Then, in 2009, my younger brother passed away unexpectedly and struggling to manage my grief, I gained more than 75 pounds. With the weight gain came a new fight to regain my sense of self and learn to love the body I saw when I looked in the mirror. Then one Thanksgiving morning, drowning in grief and self doubt, I decided to go for a run. I didn't make it half way down my street before I had to stop to walk but for some reason, struggling forward made more sense than getting back into bed. It turns out that running is a lot like grief, neither ever really get easier, you just get stronger. 

Over time, I realized that while some people are in fact born runners, others are made. I created this blog Run, Selfie, Repeat and my new podcast by the same name with the hopes to inspire others to say yes to themselves while making them laugh hysterically because laughing, in my opinion, is the solution to everything. 

Named by Women's Running as one of twenty women who are changing the sport of running and by Competitor Magazine as one of 12 Influential and inspiring runners under 30, my mission is to inspire others to get embrace a healthy lifestyle and pursue the strongest version of themselves possible.