10 Phrases That Are Just No Good & A Selfie Roundup

This weekend I did my first 13 miler after taking it easy for 2 weeks and I had a little mental breakdown about 9 miles in. I ran up the west side highway, picked up my sister in Hells Kitchen, and we took off together towards Central Park. I stopped to grab a Gatorade from a vendor and told my sister I would catch up with her. RIGHT when I caught her, she veered left and took off towards the Jackie O Reservoir. Turns out she pulled over to get a drink of water but I was like, great now I have to run the next 5 alone. Around mile 9 I started to get bored. I RARELY get bored when I run so it spooked me. I started thinking about the amount of training I have left and then I began doing math in my brain, and when I do math when I run I start to panic because I make mountains out of mole hills and then I started doubting myself. I started asking myself, “Why are you running another marathon, you can’t do it.” “This is hopeless,” and “You’ll never be ready” thoughts. All of which are completely bogus but it’s daunting knowing you are going to spend your weekends for the next 3 months running 14-20 miles. I'm all this is the standing date from hell! BUT IT’S NOT! I love running! I just had one small moment of insecurity and it turned into a giant mess.

So in liu of my 13 mile meltdown, here are 10 words and phrases I am making a conscious effort to cut out of my vocabulary. Why? Because they are the weeds of the English language and suck the life out of everything struggling to grow.  If you find yourself standing on the edge between taking a leap of faith or playing it safe, it’s these phrases that plant your feet firmly in the safe zone when you really should be jumping off the cliff. Whether it’s asking for a raise, deciding to change jobs or professions, proclaiming your love for someone, asking someone out on a date, going to mixers to network, coming out to your friends or family, signing up for an endurance race, making a life change, getting out of bed in the morning, or getting yourself to train for a marathon, these words and phrases DO NOT serve you. They stop you from stepping out of your comfort zone and from bettering yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. So let’s all just hold hands and have a little moment of silence for some of our favorite safe words that used to hold us back and stop us from being the best people we can be. May they rest in peace.

Can’t/Couldn’t/Won’t

“I can’t ask him out, he would have asked me out if he liked me.” “I couldn’t ask for a raise, I don’t want to rock the boat.” “I won’t be ready to run a marathon.”

Can’t, couldn’t, and won’t is that little critic that tells you you’re not good enough or that there’s no use in trying. Always try, always ask, and always know that you are capable.

Don't act like this toddler.

Don't act like this toddler.

Never

“I will never be good enough for my mother in law.”

Yeah, not so much. Chances are any time you say never you are just voicing the fact that you don’t see what you already are. So start there.

(Although if you've seen this movie I would agree they should probably never do that again...)

(Although if you've seen this movie I would agree they should probably never do that again...)

Sorry

“I’m sorry to bother you but…”

This applies more to your work but honestly sorry has no place in the workplace. Don’t be polite. Don’t be a complete asshole either, but stop holding yourself back. Stop hiding, hold your ground, work as a team, and always believe in what you are doing. Don’t apologize for doing your job. Speak up.

GILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY.....GILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY

GILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY.....GILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY

Impossible

“It’s impossible for me to feel comfortable speaking in front of strangers.”

Almost nothing is impossible. Impossible is almost always an excuse. It’s just another mountain to climb and overcome. Find the tools you need to overcome the things you think are impossible.

Big. Fat. Baby. Hold on while I drive the wam-bulance to help you.

Big. Fat. Baby. Hold on while I drive the wam-bulance to help you.

Embarrassing

I didn’t know what to say, it was so embarrassing.” “I don’t want to dance, that’s embarrassing.” “I fell down and it was so embarrassing.”

I get it, doing something embarrassing isn’t easy. But once you stop caring about what people think you will realize you should be the one embarrassed for them. Be silly. Laugh more. Don’t be afraid of how people perceive you, just be you. If someone doesn’t like you or thinks your annoying, run far away from that person.  Count your lucky stars you aren’t the one throwing shade.

DON'T BE NORMAL!

DON'T BE NORMAL!

Fail

“My marriage is a failure.”

Stop it. The only way you can fail is if you stop yourself from trying. Sometimes all the effort and “right” ways of doing things still produce unfavorable outcomes. You can’t let failure get in your way. You’re going to fail, so fail better.

True that, don't punch yourself in the face.

True that, don't punch yourself in the face.

Luck

“I have the worst luck.”

Well, maybe you should find more pennies that are heads up…no but seriously; luck is timing and sometimes the timing is off. Telling yourself you’re unlucky is another way to just expect bad things to happen to you.

TROLLLLLLLLLLLLL IN THE DUNGEON!

TROLLLLLLLLLLLLL IN THE DUNGEON!

I don’t have time

“I would love to (Date, train for a half marathon, lose weight) but I don’t have time.”

Excuses, excuses. Find time and make it happen. We all do it or know someone who’s making it happen so we know it’s possible. Take a 30 minute lunch break, wake up early, leave work at 6 or 7 a few days a week. Carve the time because you aren’t going to live forever. Take care of yourself.

There's always time.

There's always time.

Not meant to be

“I didn’t get the promotion; I guess it’s just not meant to be.”

Sure, sometimes it’s just not meant to be but when things don’t go according to plan, change with the tide. I don’t personally believe something is or isn’t meant to be. I think things just happen. Don’t fold your cards, always play them.

HOLD ON WHILE I VOMIT EVERYWHERE. EYE ROLL.

HOLD ON WHILE I VOMIT EVERYWHERE. EYE ROLL.

I’m Not Good Enough

“I am not/will never be good enough.”

MY LEAST FAVORITE! You will never possess all the qualifications, you will never have what someone else has, and you will never know what you are doing. We can all agree on that yes? Stop stressing about what you don’t have and start focusing on what you do. And stop saying you’re not good enough because it’s just not true. You are already the best you so pat yourself on the back. Can you be better? Always! But you already are the best and only you. I know, shocking.

You tell em' Elle Woods.

You tell em' Elle Woods.

And with that, I leave you with a selfie roundup! Because when I am feeling hesitant or unsure of myself, it’s looking at how awesome you guys are that snaps me out of it. So thank you for sending me your selfies and reminding me that a 13 mile meltdown is nothing more than a single 13 mile meltdown. You are all incredible and keep me going.

How can you be part of the next roundup? I am SO glad you asked! Use the hashtag #RunSelfieRepeat on Twitter and Instagram or email me at RunSelfieRepeat@gmail.com! Until tomorrow friends, #RunSelfieRepeat.

From Justin to Kelly: Half Way There

I'm so excited for this piece Justin wrote today. I'm not even going to set it up, here it is:

"I hit a big milestone. I am down 30 pounds! 30 frickin pounds! I feel better about how I look, I feel better overall health wise, and I’m so much happier. I have this revitalized spirit and I feel like nothing can stop me. I now feel like I have the confidence to start focusing more on my career as an actor. I took an on camera TV audition class this week and even though I was nervous going in, I felt great going out. That being said I may not be at my goal weight but I am over halfway there. I keep thinking, if I feel this great after losing this much weight, how AMAZING am I going to be when I hit my goal weight?!

LOOKING INCREDIBLE JUSTIN!

                I started my weight loss journey around Memorial Day and even though a people have noticed or commented on my shrinking waistline, it wasn’t until this week that everyone started becoming really vocal about my new body. I can’t walk around the office without people stopping me to tell me how proud of me they are or congratulate me on my accomplishment. The encouragements brightens my day but what’s been really surprising is that I seem to have inspired others to take better care of themselves and make healthier choices around the office!

                In lieu of Kelly’s post yesterday “The Fat Girl’s Guide To Running”? where she shared her weight loss story, I wanted to share my 3 tips and what has worked for me:

1.       DIET DIET DIET. Diet (By diet I mean what you put into your body) is the MOST important part of getting healthy. Seriously this is the single most important component. When I started portioning my food and picking the right foods to eat, I was shocked at how fast weight started to come off. The first week I saw a BIG drop because I wasn’t putting a ton of crap in my body.  Yes, eating right can feel like torture but it is the ONLY way to lose weight healthily and keep it off. I’ve always thought people who measured out their food were crazy until I started doing it. If you don’t have measuring cups in your sink by the time you finish serving your food then there lies your problem. I know what you’re thinking, “I don’t want to (or need to) give up fried chicken” or “I can’t give up my weekly Mexican and margarita spot.” I understand, friend chicken is a lot more exciting than salad. But you are not giving it up. Think of it as taking a break. Better yet tell yourself, “Once I reach my goal I can have that fired chicken.” In no time at all you will be eating fried chicken again (in moderation) and that chicken will be the best chicken you’ve ever had. But something unimaginable has happened to me, I have found that I don’t crave my favorite foods as often anymore. I think my taste has changed since I have worked SO hard to get to where I am that I don’t care to stop the progress. I also like to think about it this way, for YEARS I’ve put really unhealthy stuff in my body, now it’s time to put the healthy stuff in. I think my body deserves that. I had my “wild” phase when it comes to food and laziness but now it’s time to get it together.

2.       IT GETS EASIER! The best part of changing the way you eat is that IT GETS EASIER! When I’m at work and I start to think about what I want, I don’t think of pad Thai from down the street, I think of a salad. Pad Thai used to be my favorite “go to” meal.  I still crave it but I’m so happy with my progress I really think about what I’m about to eat before I eat it. And I let myself have Pad Thai or some of my favorites every once in a while, like every two weeks or so. Just not every few days. I now understand moderation.

3.       WILL POWER! This is something you need to have. If you don’t have it then start looking for it because will power is what keeps the progress happening! When I think “Boy that jar of Nutella looks amazing” my will power is the thing that says, “But you have already lost 30 pounds, it’s not worth it.” Will power is Nutellas kryptonite.  When I can say no to something unhealthy or I make the better decision at the grocery store or restaurant, I now feel empowered. I admit, in the beginning when I would go out to eat and see all the food I couldn’t have, I felt defeated. I was really hard on myself because I felt like I was saying no to so much food that I love but after a while I started actually enjoying and craving the healthier foods. Sure it can get monotonous. There are days when I sit in front of the same healthy thing I’ve been eating for the past three days and I think, “Why am I doing this? Is this even worth it?” YES IT IS! I’m living proof. Find the will power to get through the first two or three weeks. The rest is gravy. (No pun intended.)

4.       EXERCISE. Find the exercise that works for you. I have a bad lower back so I joined a yoga studio and it has done wonders. I’ve made yoga friends and have found some really great classes (HOT POWER YOGA) that not only helped my back but make me feel strong and empowered. If you aren’t use to exercise, (I wasn’t) this may be the hardest part to get through. I used to go home after work, exhausted, order take out and watch Netflix. I never thought I’d exercise after work or BEFORE work for that matter (woof), but as I started dieting and seeing progress I thought, “Woah what if I ate healthy AND worked out,” and WHO KNEW it helps the process! You hear everyone say “I have more energy when I work out” and at first this didn’t happen. I felt MORE tired and so sore and incredibly awful. But as I stuck with it, it got easier and now it’s energizing.  I use to fall asleep on the subway on my way home from work, now I go to the yoga studio and leave class with more energy than when I went in. I hate the gym so I just had to find what I enjoyed doing. Figure out what works for you and DO it.

5.       SUPPORT. You need support at some point be in in the beginning, middle, or end of your journey. You need someone who will check in on you and tell you to keep going or be your crutch until you have the ability to stand on your own two feet. Then you will find support in other ways from compliments, or someone checking you out, or from yourself when you look in the mirror. Everyone needs encouragement.

You learn a lot about yourself when you lose a significant amount of weight. I feel like a totally different person than I was two months ago. I can’t explain the difference but it goes beyond my physical transformation. It’s so much more than that. But I’m here to tell you, YOU CAN DO IT. It’s hard, but it’s so worth it. You can do it. Keep going. Here’s to another week!"

There are no words for how excited I am for Justin's progress. If there's one thing I have learned it's that there is no magic way to lose weight. It's diet and exercise. Period. No pills, no shake weight, no fancy equipment, just diet and exercise and by eating healthy and being active not only will you see a change physically but the way you see yourself and the world will change. It's an incredible accomplishment to be able to drop a significant amount of weight. I read an article yesterday called "5 Things I Miss About Weighing 300 Pounds" that made me smile. Two of her reasons were Presence and Perspective. I urge you to read the piece. It's a brave other point of view.

Alright everyone, I have 13 miles tomorrow! Have a wonderful weekend and keep them selfies coming! Use the hashtag #RunSelfieRepeat or email them to me at RunSelfieRepeat@gmail.com and we will do a selfie roundup on Monday! Until Monday, #RunSelfieRepeat.

"The Fat Girl's Guide to Running"?

Do you call yourself fat? I don't call myself fat. Want a word that literally atom bombed my body image growing up? HIPPO. When I was in elementary school when my friends used to fight we would call each other mean names. They called me hippo. It left a huge festering infection in my psyche despite the fact that I pretended not to care. Was I actually overweight as a little girl? Absolutely not. I wasn't teeny tiny but stick thin wasn't my body type. So instead of looking in the mirror and seeing a happy healthy girl who could run faster than the boys, I would ask myself, "Why am I not skinny like X or Y." And so it began.

Then I went to college and drank margaritas and sugary drinks. So I slowly packed on a few pounds. Then my brother passed away and brownies became the only way my friends could make me feel better. So an already morphed body image coupled with a devastating weight gain pushed me over the edge. Looking in the mirror and seeing myself at 200 pounds while trying to grieve a loss was overwhelming. My Mom put her foot down in the gentlest way possible, sensing that I was drowning in my own skin, and offered to pay for a weight loss program. For a while I declined because I was so mortified that I needed help. It was a devastating blow. But then, I finally agreed.

I felt traumatized that I let myself get to that point. I felt embarrassed. I remember sitting in the office trying not to cry. It was like ripping off a band-aid. The way the plan worked, there were specific meals I was supposed to eat throughout the day and I was required to work out 5 days a week for 30 minutes a day. I started out riding the stationary bike. After a month I got on an elliptical for 45 minutes and started doing some resistance training. A semester later I lost 40 pounds. It was just like what Justin is experiencing, the weight just fell off. I started to look and feel like myself again. I started feeling attractive. Then I quit the program continued eating healthier and going to spin class regularly. I didn't find running until I graduated college and felt like I had nothing going for me. A marathon, 6 half marathons, a 10k, a 5 miler, and 1 5k later, I am now a runner. Fat? Absolutely not. Am I a skinny? NOPE. Am I healthy and fit? HELL TO THE YES. I am a US size 8/10. I run 35-45 miles a week, and couldn’t be happier.

It took a while to track down some before pictures, I did a very good job of hiding them.

It took a while to track down some before pictures, I did a very good job of hiding them.

So I was a little taken a back this morning when Jezebel wrote an article about a blog titled “The Fat Girl’s Guide To Running.” At first I thought to myself, “Great. Another woman calling herself fat.” And it rubbed me the wrong way personally because there’s always that teeny tiny part of me that is slightly sensitive to the fact that I still struggle with my body image. So I started reading and discovered that Julie’s blog, “The Fat Girl’s Guide to Running” is exactly what you would expect it to be: hilarious and awesome. She has posts like “The pitfalls of being an overweight runner,”  “Why Fatty Must Run,” and my absolute personal favorite “Fat women are lazy and discussting.” (Don't judge this book by it's cover. That article is a drop kick to a disgusting internet troll.) She’s setting the bar high and saying just because you are overweight doesn’t mean you can’t be a runner. And not only is she making you laugh along the way but she’s flattening internet trolls and haters.

Yesterday morning I saw a tweet from Active magazine to an article titled “Why Beginners Should Wait to Run A Marathon” and I thought to myself FUCK OFF. (Excuse the French.) Seriously! Stop telling people how to live their lives y’all! I ran my first marathon 6 months after my first run. I ran it because I wanted to. And I trained myself to successfully complete the single most important feet in my life to date. So please don’t tell someone they can’t run because of their weight or because they are a beginner! Just do you. If you want to run a marathon but think you haven’t been a runner long enough, think again. With hard work, anyone can run a marathon. I don’t like the word fat. I’ve said it once and I will say it a million times. Stop stressing about your weight. If you don’t like where you are at, make a change. How? So glad you asked, I’m dying to share:

Step 1: Get Healthy. Cut all alcohol and processed foods out of your diet. Eat strictly fruits, veggies, proteins, and complex carbs. I know, it blows, but it’s literally a few weeks of your life and then you get to eat delicious treats again (in moderation).  Make your meals ahead of time and measure portions. PORTIONS ARE KEY! 3 meals a day, 6 meals a day, 10 meals a day it really doesn’t matter. Find what works for you. There really isn’t a secret.

Step 2: Get active! Start with walking at sunrise and sunset for 30 minutes. Or get a gym membership and sweat for 30 minutes a day. Or start running-Do the Couch to 5k challenge! Start bike riding! Just get outside and sweat for 30 minutes a day. Twice a day for 30 minutes is even better. If you’re competitive set a goal! But get out there!

Step 3: TELL NO ONE. Just do it for you. If there’s someone who you consider a cupcake buddy (I have 5, they leave me treats or we go to literally buy cupcakes once a week) let them know “Hey, I am trying to get healthy so I am gonna skip the cupcakes. Maybe we can go for tea?” I guarantee they will be like “You are a badass I am so impressed.”  

Step 4: START RIGHT NOW! Not tomorrow, RIGHT NOW. Just do it. If you don’t do it now, you won’t do it. Set a goal and stick to it. Don’t say you want to lose 20 pounds if you really want to lose 50. Don’t be afraid to fail. You can’t fail because there’s no deadline. You will fluctuate, you will cheat and that’s OK! Live your life! Don’t let the scale stop you from having a glass of wine or a piece of pizza. Just enjoy it if you decide to have it. Then keep going.

Step 5: Start looking in the mirror and liking what you see. Start loving yourself. If you don’t love yourself, why should anyone else? I’m serious about this. The second you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like name 5 things you do. Because you know what people aren’t noticing when they look at you? Your weight. GET OVER IT. (I know, easier said than done.)

Getting active and falling in love with running is the best thing that ever happened to me. It freed me from constantly obsessing over what I eat and drink. When I signed up to run my marathon, a partial reason was because I was convinced I would drop those final 10 pounds I could never shake. I DIDN’T LOSE 1 POUND! But I got TONED and was reminded it’s not about what you weigh. You could weigh 120 pounds or 180 pounds and still be able to complete a marathon if you train for it. You just have to be crazy enough to sign up. I’m just crazy enough to do it twice. Here’s to the NYC Marathon and all the Fat Runners because you aren’t really fat runners, you are just runners. Until tomorrow friends, #RunSelfieRepeat.

10 Other Times I Shouldn't Have Taken A Selfie

Terrified and about to be electrocuted.

Terrified and about to be electrocuted.

Yesterday I was laying in my bed after running the most terrifying 6 miles of my life in the midst of an INSANE lightening storm, quietly reading my book, minding my own business, when I started getting Instagram and Twitter notifications about a health.com article titled "3 Times You Should Never, Ever Take a Selfie." I opened said article and found a certain someone (ME!) equated with the likes of the man who took a selfie during The Running of the Bulls (Ya not even I would do that...) and during catastrophic events (um...what else would you do during a lightening storm...see ironic and coincidental picture taken yesterday.) So I thought...why not add 10 other times you PROBABLY shouldn't take a selfie. You know, because there are times you should DEFINITELY take a selfie....

1. While Getting A Facial

HERE'SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS JOHNNY

HERE'SSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS JOHNNY

2. When You Are Graduating College

I would have paid more attention if the speaker wasn't making jokes about my future unemployment.

I would have paid more attention if the speaker wasn't making jokes about my future unemployment.

3. While In A Jacuzzi

BUT WHY DID THE WATER KEEP DISAPPEARING??!?!?!

BUT WHY DID THE WATER KEEP DISAPPEARING??!?!?!

4. While Moving Home From College.

I was in traffic you guys. The 405 is basically a parking lot.

I was in traffic you guys. The 405 is basically a parking lot.

5. Carrying Heavy Objects To The Subway

Literally 50 pounds.

Literally 50 pounds.

6. With Nacho at a Polo Match

The definition of classy right there.

The definition of classy right there.

7. On A Roller Coaster

God forbid you drop your phone.

God forbid you drop your phone.

8. While Tech-ing a Show

Director's should be paying attention! Not pretending to be Britney Spears!

Director's should be paying attention! Not pretending to be Britney Spears!

9. Before Your Bridal Party Entrance

Weddings should be serious matters after all.

Weddings should be serious matters after all.

10. When You Are A Baby

Taking selfies before they were cool.

Taking selfies before they were cool.

And Finally When You Run A Half Marathon.

Because what else do you have to do for 2 hours. SHEESH!

Because what else do you have to do for 2 hours. SHEESH!

Thanks for the shout out Health Magazine. #RealTalk #SorryNotSorry #Blessed

7 Characteristics Resilient People Possess

Do you ever look at your friends or family and think, “How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?” I don’t know how I would survive without my family and friends. The most overwhelming and daunting aspect of moving to New York was feeling like I was moving away from a huge chunk of my support system.  Even with the accessibility of face time, Skype, text messaging, email, and phone calls it’s not the same as being able to be with someone in person. When I moved to New York I was immediately welcomed with open arms by our Fairy Godparents Deb and Larry, best friends of my Aunt Becky and Uncle David. Deb and Larry are my security net here in New York.

Deb is one of those special people who is not only incredibly intelligent, successful, and self-made but really and truly cares about your well being. She is one of the most resilient women I know and gives invaluable and insightful career and life advice. Debs experienced loss like we have so talking to her about grief or the frustrating gray areas that accompany it is invaluable. Deb recently shared this article titled The 5 Characteristics of Incredibly Resilient People” by Smita Malhotra, M.D.and I wanted to share it with all of you.

What is resilience and why should you care? Resilience is "the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness." Unfortunately we all have to deal with loss, setbacks, trauma, hardships, and changes both big and small. It could be losing a loved one, losing a house, going through a divorce, or having a fight with a loved one, being unhappy at work, or having your children go off to college. There are many different degrees and unless you take steps towards becoming a resilient they can overwhelm and consume you. Life’s hard and this article is a must read because it’s a reminder that no one is born resilient, resilience is attained by taking proactive steps.

 The article lists the five characteristics of resilient people,

1) They practice mindfulness

Mindfulness is the art of paying attention to your life on purpose. Mindful people monitor the thoughts that come through them. However, instead of reacting to their negative thoughts, they observe them like a storm that is passing through. Furthermore, they pay attention to what is right in their lives.

Sounds impossible, you receive tragic news and you are somehow able to find a way to focus on what is right in your life. Yes it’s trying to see the glass half full when you want to throw the glass against the wall. But it isn’t immediate, resilience is being able to take a second to sit and breathe. Sometimes you don’t know what to do or all you want to do is sit and cry. But it’s imperative to know that taking a second to cry can be a step forward. Letting the moment happen and being able to get up and keep going when it passes. And most importantly, knowing that tomorrow will come. Then tomorrow will come, and then tomorrow will come. It may not feel like it and you may not want it to come but you will be able to see clarity through the storm.

“2) They don't compare themselves to others”

You can’t compare yourself and your hardships to somebody else's. The grass is always going to greener, always. You can’t “spend [your] time feeling sorry for [yourself].” Comparing will get you nowhere. You know what I think? I think sometimes people get dealt shittier hands than others. It doesn’t make sense, it’s not fair, but it is what it is. We all have endless amounts of joy available to us despite our hardships. Resilience is a result of “continually trying to be the new and improved version of [yourself.] And as long as [you] are better than [you] were yesterday, [you] know [you] are on the right path.” Find your loved ones and the things you are passionate about and let them keep you afloat.

 “3) They understand that after every big setback is an even bigger transformation”

When you are in the thick of it, this is extremely difficult to comprehend. You have to have the drive to fight but you also need to understand and believe that “difficulties [are] stepping stones to a transformation.”

 “4) They find humor in everything”

“Laughter, in its very highest form, is a spiritual practice. It connects us to the part of our soul that heals… Resilient people look for reasons to laugh. They find humor in the mundane. They understand that paying attention to the ordinary is what makes life extraordinary.” All you can do is laugh. Let yourself laugh. Please god, don’t stop laughing.

 “5) They do not try to control their lives”

“People that have overcome hardships, tremendous obstacles or disease often feel that life goes from black and white in the before to many beautiful colors in the after. The have turned up the volume of beauty in their lives.”

This is a hard one. I personally love to try to control my life. I think I am really good at relinquishing control, but I’m not. You have 0 control of the things that happen in your life. None. Live for spontaneity. See adversity as a challenge and don’t sweat the small stuff.

 Deb added two more characteristics that I wanted to share with you all.

“6. Resilient people look their situations "clear in the eye" and move toward the pain, not around it, learning everything they can (the good and the bad) about what they are experiencing. They know that by moving into the pain it becomes less powerful.

 “7.) Resilient people do not make their life story about their challenges; their story becomes how they impact others in spite of losses.”

 I can’t tell you how true these are. You can’t survive if you don’t step into the discomfort and then share with others. Resilience is something every single one of us should work towards. And if you know someone who possesses any of these qualities, move towards them. There is so much life and adventure with them and their outlook on life is contagious.

 Alright friends, what do you think? This was an exhausting post and my brain won't stop thinking. Until tomorrow, #RunSelfieRepeat.